Ask Anna: The art of cruising for intercourse

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If a guy is delivering signals to a different guy, such as for example viewing him and rotating their ankles together with shoes/socks down, exactly what does this suggest? Or if he sits beside after this you discusses you and taps the base of their base or their ankle, so what does it suggest? I’ve had this take place while waiting in the coach stop. Any suggestions about exactly exactly what these indications could suggest will be valued. — Male Body Gestures

They’re cruising you for sex, and I also is shocked in the event that you didn’t understand that. Maybe you’re too young to keep in mind the Sen. Larry Craig homosexual intercourse bathroom scandal of 2007. In that case, it involved the Republican (homophobic, closeted, “family values”) senator soliciting for bathroom sex in an airport bathroom by tapping their base, then pressing the base of the undercover officer when you look at the stall close to him, who then arrested him.

The employment of coded signaling was for protective reasons, as homosexual guys had been usually targeted by police (but still are) and at the mercy of harassment, abuse, and/or imprisonment. To prevent this, also to allow other queer males to locate them, they developed codes, often elaborate ones — like the hanky rule — to show interest that is sexual.

Based on a quite long post about general public intercourse codes on Urban Dictionary, “Tapping the base repeatedly in a separated rhythmic pattern basically claims ‘Hello friend, i will be designed for public homosexual intercourse.’ a good a reaction to the tapping will be a much slow rhythmic tapping translated to ‘Well hello to you too. I’m also designed for public homointercourseual sex and will be thinking about having some to you.'”

The advent of apps like Grindr, Manhunt, and Growlr have mostly diminished the creative art of general public cruising. Not completely.

Regarding the ankle rotation, I’ve never been aware of that as a cruising sign, and neither has Bob Sienkiewicz, editor of cruisingforsex, whom we contacted regarding the inquiry.

“More generally speaking, just what I’ve seen and skilled occurs when someone has gone out — walking in the road, on public transit, also sitting in some public places like lobbies or airport terminals where they should wait or sometimes wander and wait again — if one makes attention contact, then walks away or appears away, then appears as well as one other celebration is searching right back, then it may be cruising,” he states.

The bigger point is the fact that then the general advice appears to be to mimic the action of what the other is doing, which lets them know you’re interested, too if you are interested in reciprocating with these men.

If you’re NOT interested, then ignore it. And they’ll continue their merry way.

Should you care to have a dive that is deep cruising signals, you can read Laud Humphreys’ 1970 book “Tearoom Trade: Impersonal Sex in Public Places.” It’s been criticized for the unethical research methods — Humphreys didn’t get his interviewees consent that is’ lots of whom were straight-married, like him, and tracked subjects straight straight down by their permit dishes — but the guide details the elaborate and stylish party of this general public cruise, a number of which can be still employed today.